289. Intimacy, Trust, and Consent: An Interview with Mona Darling, Kink Coach and Pro Domme

Amanda and I interview Mona Darling, who is a professional dominatrix, kink coach, BDSM mentor, and sexual adventure coach. She was introduced by Thien-Kim Lam of Bawdy Bookworms – thank you, Thien-Kim!

So first and foremost: content warning and trigger warning for explicit discussions of sexual kink, sexual practice, and rape fantasy.

We talk about how she got her start and how her business works, including the differences between working at a house vs being an independent domme. We have a very interesting conversation about consent and personal motivations for exploring kink, and the struggles of being an introverted domme. Mona also shares advice for finding kinky resources near you, answers personal questions – and gives advice for using erotic literature with your partner(s).

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You can find Mona Darling at DarlingPropaganda.

She was also profiled at Vice.com.

You can hear her Monday afternoons from 6-8pm PST on O.School live, where she hosts a shame-free kinky conversation each week.

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This Episode’s Music

Peatbog Faeries Live at 25 album cover - a red lit stage with hands in the air from the crowd in the foregroundOur music is provided by Sassy Outwater. Thanks, Sassy!

We’ve been playing tracks from the Peatbog Fairies’ live album, Live @ 25, and it is seriously fun.

This is The Naughty Step by the Peatbog Faeries.

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